Friday, January 29, 2016

The Direction of my Blog

I've been thinking a lot lately about the direction of my blog.  And I've been having a difficult time organizing my thoughts on the subject.  But let me try.
I started Hominy Girl 5 years ago.   ^ That's the first picture I posted!
So much has changed for me in those 5 years and lately I've been feeling different about what I'm creating here.
The sole purpose of my blog is to be an outlet for me and I'm not really sure what that looks like at this stage in my life.  
I have faded in and out of wanting to become more involved in the blogging world over the years.
But my priorities have always lay elsewhere than online.
That is not to say I don't treasure this space.  I do and I'm not going anywhere.
I'm just trying to figure it out.

After we returned from St. Barths I started thinking a lot about internet sharing.

My relationship with Facebook has ebbed and flowed throughout the years and I've continually found it confusing. The dual "facebook personalities" of some people I know are enough to make me question the whole thing...I've definitely had some head scratching moments.

As I'm getting older, I'm thinking more and more about my own participation in social media.
At the very core of it all, I don't like the addictive quality to checking Facebook numerous times a day.

I asked K what he thought about Facebook and he said "It's Show and Tell every day".

I believe that the concept of Show and Tell with children is to build confidence and listening skills. I think it also introduces a healthy relationship with competition and materialism. However, I don't know how that translates here in adulthood. Maybe the answer is that it brings us back into a more childish (read: immature) mindset?
I struggle with statements like that, because I know just how hypocritical I can be.  But I do think that.
I do think Facebook is immature!
I also think that for the antisocial it can really provide much needed connections. For those of us not really connecting, simply "lurking", for lack of a better term, the effects are more negative.  
Do you agree? 
For whatever reason, sharing our vacation photos on Facebook made me question what I was doing. It made me think a little different about the motivation and impact of life online.

I feel like I began blogging at a real turning point for everything.    
Back in 2011 there were not many bloggers who were making a living off their blogs, quitting their jobs to take it full time.
And now, I think it's incredible that so many women are making real careers out of sharing their thoughts.
I have no issues with the new direction, I'm along for the ride. Blogs have always inspired me and I continue to look forward to so many different people's posts.

When I started blogging, K and I were a new couple and I was excited to simply share anything and everything about my life in love.
As our relationship has progressed and we have become focused on our future, I have some new thoughts on blogs...
Like blogs with children...

I have read several posts from young mothers regarding the concept of "watermarking" all of their photos for safety and security.  I think this is such an incredibly protective and thoughtful decision. I do think, though, that public blogs would do best to protect their children by simply keeping them offline.

It's amazing to me how technologically savvy children are these days.  It makes me so curious as to what the future holds.  It also makes me nervous.  The internet can be used as a weapon and bloggers are not strangers to cyberbullying.  And I think we may have only touched the tip of the iceberg with all of that.
Time will tell.
My point, though, should I ever actually reach it, is that I worry about a bully finding a mother's blog and using it as ammunition on her child.
 A funny diaper story, a family camping trip, nursery decor...there is no predicting how things could be twisted and used against. I don't know how I will handle this myself, but it's something that I think about.
So, you may be wondering, Where is all this coming from?  What's going on?

And that's just the point.
I'm looking to change some things up over here.
I have always enjoyed writing. My college major was English, concentrating in Creative Writing, and it has been a huge part of my life.
I'm planning to start writing more.
This entire post is centered around the concept of online sharing.
Clearly, this is something I like to do.
But I am looking to become more intentional and selective with what I'm sharing here.
I love to express myself and consider this blog to be the perfect avenue for my voice.
I simply plan to make it more authentic to where I am currently in life.

Thanks for reading.

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Life Lately

This weekend was really great.  We spent time with family and friends.  
We ate good food.  
And we spent a decent amount of time doing nothing at all.
Win. Win. Win.
This past Friday night we had Paisano's for dinner.  They offer half priced pitchers with large specialty pies on Fridays so this is something we do fairly frequently.
Oh look, here I am at the table!
I am still getting used to my new hair.  It's completely transformed my look.  It has significantly cut my primping time, which is a welcome change for the new year.
Anyway, pizza night!
Saturday was the most gloriously lazy day.  I slow cooked a boston butt all day, which gave me the perfect excuse to stay cozy inside.  My friend Carrie came by and we had such a nice time just sitting and chatting.  It really made me nostalgic for the college days when that was how we spent so much of our social time...Watching tv together and doing nothing but hanging out.

Later that night we had dinner with my parents.
We had the delicious pork and I ordered macaroni and cheese from Publix.
I figured I'd share the Publix part because I was really happy with it.  
It was $15.00 for a large sheet pan and it really tasted great.  Nothing too fancy, but sometimes mac just tastes better when you don't have to cook it, am I right?  For that price it's something I'll consider for future holidays/celebrations.
I also made my favorite salad: spinach, berries, candied walnuts, and parm.
Sunday was an exciting day!   
My friend Kristina and I hosted our first focus group for our new business venture.  
A little over a year ago, we began discussing the idea of starting a business together.  It was right around the time I was knee deep in wedding planning and so we put it on hold.  Over the last several months we've been pulling ideas together and this past Sunday, we decided to present our work to a few trusted ladies to get general feedback.  It was an invigorating discussion and we both feel much steadier moving forward.  Realistically hoping to launch in December! 
We bribed our test subjects with cupcakes and champagne.  
(Pssst. Cupcake does BOGO during happy hour on certain Fridays.The black bottom is my favorite flavor.)
And that's it
It's nothing crazy, but we are just loving a low key lifestyle these days.
What's been going on with y'all?

Friday, January 22, 2016

Chillin' Chillin'

Just popping in to say hello!
Things have been going nice and easy in our neck of the woods, how about yours?
Winter has finally come to Charleston and I'm so happy.
This cold weather really invigorates me.
I am sleeping so well...Hibernating if you will.  
I've also been preoccupied working on a few fun projects! 
So yea, everything is good and I hope to catch up here soon.
Until then, Alfie selfies: